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Sunday, February 10, 2008

Catching Up

You all are in luck, I'm actually planning on posting not one but TWO entries today, woot woot! This post will actually just get some of you caught up with what's going on in T's world.

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Daughter is doing great, getting 3 A's and 1 B on her last report card. She has a new boyfriend, Larry, whom I adore and I also get along very well with his parents. They spend a lot of time together and since he's a Sophmore who's on the "popular" side, she's well know around the school now and they seem to be the "golden couple" of the school. Keep in mind there's only a student population of about 500-600, so it's not like my high school of 3K where you can go 4 years without knowing anyone!

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Business is going good in the medical billing field. The last new client I got, back in 4/2007 is really starting to take off, doing way better then I ever thought she would. My three contractors are still doing exceptionally well and I'm not quite sure where I would be if it weren't for them.

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Since business has been going well, I've decided, yet again, that it's time to persue other interests so I became part of the YTB family, making me a RTA, which is Registered Travel Agent. That's right folks, I decided to do a little part time work and in exchange I get tons of great travel deals and FAM trips, which are "Familiarizing" trips which RTA's get at RIDICULOUS prices in order to recommend those trips to future or current clients/customers. I'll make another post in a day or two with links and more information, that way if anyone who reads my blog travels or knows people who do, you can book off of my website. It works JUST like Expedia.com or Orbitz.com, so it would be easy to compare prices and know that you're getting the best deal out there. More info to follow soon.

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We've had another set back with the ex-husband. Bill had a very rough day in December and decided to check out of life again. I last spoke to him through email on 1/8/08, but then got a phone call from the Kingman police department that a friend in town had called and asked them to do a Welfare Check. Since I was his ex-wife they wanted to know if I'd heard from him, what his status was, etc. etc.

So I called him and he called me back within 5 mins, which is what he usually does...screens his calls then calls back only the people he wants to talk to. Apparantly for 2 weeks in Jan, I was that "one" person. Sigh. So not only did I have to deal with him and his eccentricies but I also had to deal with his ex-girlfriend, his father, his stepmother, his best friend, his friends in town.....it was enough to either drive me crazy or piss me off.

Then on 1/23 I'm at his landlords getting another key to his house so I can get the Kingman Police entry into his house to check for his dead body. While there he calls me for the last time and tells me he will be in Kingman the next day to take care of rent and the car payment. Apparantly he hasn't been paying any of his bills since the end of Nov/early Dec including rent. You guessed it, he never showed up and from that point on, refused to return my calls despite my threats and in fact his voicemail filled up by Wednesday 1/30 and was turned off completely (non-payment) by 2/2.

So on 1/29-2/1 I had the pleasant task of packing up his house and placing everything into a storage unit. I spent over $1k (that I really didn't want to be spending) to get his stuff into storage so that the landlord couldn't call it "abandoned property" and sell it. It also prevented her from putting an actual "eviction" notice on his credit report as I voluntarily gave her the keys to his house when we were done. What a pain in the ass those few days were. Have you ever packed a house of someone who wasn't planning on moving, and doing it in 2 days? It's tough.

We had filed a missing person report on 1/28 and since he's an adult, that's all we could do. They were able to put "mental illness" on the file but apparantly if you don't want to be found, you don't have to be found. So almost two full weeks go by and I'm going on with my business and life but have to stop it every time I get a phone call from a friend or family member. Which really got annoying because WHY ME??. I'm his EX wife, not his current wife, not his girlfriend, I'm DONE with him and his life so why am I the key center of this??

Anywho, to wrap it up. I get a call yesterday AM 2/9, from the Kingman police dept who got a call from the Maricopa County Sheriff's office that they've been in contact with him and he told them that he didn't want to talk to anyone and so they left him alone. However, his father got involved, called the Sheriff's office and they told him where they had seen him, at a rest stop area near Wickenburg, apparantly he had been there for about 3 days with no food, no gas, and no money. I still don't understand...instead of calling a loved one to ask for help what was he planning on doing, starving himself to death out in the middle of the desert, 15 miles from his dad's house? So. Stupid.

Anyways, so his dad went and picked him up, took him back to his house and that's where he's at now. Not sure what he plans on doing with his life now, because he seriously fucked it up. NO clients will talk to him ever again, as they've already given him a chance before, when he "checked out" of life after we broke up, he's probably going to be sued by several of them for not doing work he was already paid for and can't do because his computer not only crashed but it's in storage now anyways. I guess a retail job is in order now.

The last detail is the car he's in. We bought 2 cars together when we were married and they're both in both of our names. We agreed that we would each take one and then continue on payments as normal. I warned him last year though, when I was paying his bills that if he stopped paying and I had to step in AGAIN, then the car is MINE and I would reposses it. I'll be DAMNED if I pay for a car for him to drive around in because he doesn't want to be bothered with life or with working. I may sound callous and hard hearted, but you can only put up with so much and in the case of dealing with a mentally diseased person, if they refuse to help themselves, why should I step in and help them?

You can't help someone who won't help themselves.

As you can see, it's been a pretty rough last two weeks and while I've tried so hard not to let it get to me, eventually it does wear a soul down. I still took time out to go to Vegas for a Super Bowl party though, so that thread is coming up next!!

T

5 Comments:

Blogger Mom / Marlene said...

Well I guess that excuses you from not blogging or letting anyone know what you've been going through. I'm sure you handled everything well as you're the strongest person I know. Can hardly wait to hear regular updates.

3:01 PM  
Blogger EC said...

So sorry about all the crap going on with Bill - that must be incredibly tough for you. It's funny - my soon to be ex did the same thing - just "checked out". Didn't go to work, didn't call anyone and somehow it all became my responsibility to talk to his landlord, his boss, his creditors, and the child support office to reschedule court and so forth. Like I need that shit!! (only 2 more months till I'm officially divorced - wooohoo!)

Anyhow, glad he is okay and at his dads. Now, onto the good stuff - can't wait to hear about the superbowl party!!

Can't wait

4:05 PM  
Blogger babylamb said...

Hey Big Sister,
I'm so sorry you had to deal with all of that. Hopefully that will be the last but I doubt it.

I love you!!! Keep your head up...

6:32 PM  
Blogger Patti Cake said...

Sounds like work is going well....and eventually Bill will be taken care of by his family. Sounds like the place he needs to be is in Wickenburg.

7:19 AM  
Blogger "MissT74" said...

"Eventually" is correct, I'm DONE and I told his father, that's it. You're his last and only option, you're the ONLY family he has and he's the ONLY family you have so deal with him and his issues as they are obviously hereditary (Bill's uncle committed suicide in December). Anywho, so far so good, he's staying in Wickenburg trying to get back on his feet. I wish him nothing but the best, just not with my involvement.

5:15 PM  

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